Keeping the Romance Alive In Your Marriage

Michele Weiner-Davis was shocked when at the age of 16, she learned that her parents were getting a divorce. The impact that this had on her led her to explore the factors that contribute to making a marriage last. In her years of couples therapy, she’s made quite a few important observations about one of the most basic needs in a marriage - sex. First, low libido is not just a women’s issue. Second, when you deny your partner sex, intimacy at all levels is affected. Finally, and most significantly, rejection hurts. Through a series of anecdotes and personal experiences, Michele lays bare the bones of an unequal relationship, and what you can do to fix it. Watch the full video here:

According to Weiner-Davis, there are two things we have to remember if we want to make a marriage work. We have to become experts in understanding what it is that makes our partner feel connected to us, and then encourage them to feel that way. Secondly, we can’t dismiss sex as a mechanical urge. We must accept it as a greater expression of a need to be touched, to feel wanted and loved. And, as she says,  at the end of the day, you don’t even have to fully understand it all the time, you just have to do it.