Common Myths About Postpartum Depression

The arrival of a child is often touted as a “magical” time. You expect to feel happy and full of joy. While this may be true, it can also be a time of overwhelming emotions and big adjustments. For some new parents, these changes can take a toll on their mental health. One way in which this might happen is postpartum depression. 

Postpartum depression is a specific type of depression which begins after the arrival of a child. It is a serious mental health condition which differs from the ‘baby blues’ that many women experience after childbirth. While baby blues typically settle as parents adjust to their new responsibilities within two to four weeks, postpartum depression can persist until treatment is sought and can affect your overall well-being. 

Postpartum depression can be difficult to understand. The emotions you experience during this period can be confusing and can make you question whether what you’re feeling is real or not. At such a time, having accurate information about the realities of postpartum depression can help you make sense of what you’re going through. Read this blog to bust some of the common myths about postpartum depression.

Postpartum Depression Is Not ‘Real’

It is definitely real.

Postpartum depression is a very real condition that affects up to 15% of new parents. Common symptoms include intense mood swings, difficulty bonding with the baby, hopelessness and guilt, or a loss of interest in activities that you used to enjoy before. 

Postpartum depression can sometimes be triggered by the hormonal changes associated with pregnancy. At other times, it might be caused by the stress and lifestyle changes that occur after childbirth.

New parents can find it confusing when they feel so ‘low’ at a time typically associated with happiness. While it is natural to feel guilty, it can be helpful to remind yourself that what you are feeling is definitely real. The presence of postpartum depression is in no way a reflection of your abilities as a parent. Rather, it is a genuine medical condition which can be managed with the right treatment. 

Postpartum Depression Only Affects Women

A common misconception about postpartum depression is that it affects only mothers. In reality, post-pregnancy depression can affect any new parent, including biological fathers and adoptive parents. The arrival of a child is a major adjustment; increased stress, more responsibility, lack of sleep and exhaustion can all contribute to the development of postpartum depression in new fathers or adoptive parents. 

Furthermore, recent research suggests that male partners are also likely to experience significant hormonal fluctuations after the birth of a child. These changes also increase their likelihood of developing post-pregnancy depression. 

Common symptoms of Men's Postpartum Depression in fathers or adoptive parents can include loss of energy, feelings of worthlessness, excessive guilt, loss of interest in activities, or change in sleep and eating patterns. Approximately 8% of new fathers experience symptoms of postpartum depression. Similarly, up to 35% of new adoptive parents are likely to experience depressive symptoms. However, a majority of these people are not able to recognise their symptoms or do not seek help for their concerns. 

If you or someone you know is a new parent experiencing symptoms of postpartum depression, it is important to get help. There are many treatment options available which can help you effectively deal with your symptoms.

Planned and Unplanned Pregnancies Are at Equal Risk of Postpartum Depression

All new parents are at risk for developing postpartum depression. But, certain situations, such as an unplanned pregnancy, can further increase your likelihood of developing it. 

The uncertainty of an unplanned pregnancy can take a toll on your mental health. All of a sudden, there are many questions that need to be answered - Am I ready for this? How do I tell my partner? What adjustments do I need to make? Your stress levels might start to rise, and anxiety can creep in. You may also have mixed feelings about going through with the pregnancy. 

The uncertainty of the situation coupled with the hormonal changes that happen during pregnancy can increase your risk of developing postpartum depression. However, there is hope. Managing stress levels and understanding how you would want to go ahead with the pregnancy can help you cope in this uncertain time. Talk therapy can be especially beneficial for learning coping strategies and exploring your emotions in a safe non-judgmental space. 

Conclusion

Postpartum Depression is a real mental health condition which can greatly impact new parents regardless of  gender. It can take a toll on your well-being and can make it difficult to care for yourself or your child. However, with the right treatment - typically a combination of therapy and medication - you can learn to manage your symptoms and live a happy, fulfilling life.